I am over 6 years into my recovery from my stroke and still have a lot of issues with pain, mobility and insomnia.
Also I deal with depression frequently. It's a part of my life now, and just like someone who has an addiction it's something I have to confront and deal with. I'm fortunate that I have developed a pretty good set of tools to help me and I have a decent support network.
I wrote an earlier blog entry 6/29/2013 " AND THEN WE HAD TO LIVE IN A BLUE HOUSE" that addressed how people have different struggles and face different things that others may see as a mere trifle, yet it pushes them into a dark place.
Recently my son started training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and I go along with him to watch him, Although he really enjoys it has probably helped me out more than him. I actually get out and talk to people now. It also made me aware of the story of Kai Wright.
Kai was a local youth who also trained Jiu Jitsu as well. Although he had a very loving and supporting family and was popular he battled depression. Although he was diagnosed and went to therapy he ended up taking his own life.
He was 12 years old.
The very thought of losing one of my children at that age to ANYTHING would absolutely had devastated me. I can't imagine the grief his parents went through.
When I heard his story it was a total shock to me that anyone so young could be lost to something I consider to be an adult ( or at minimum a teenage) problem.
Kai's family has started an outreach program that is two-fold. It helps allow underprivledged youth participate in Jiu Jitsu and it addresses depression and suicide awareness in young people.
One of the images for their foundation is a " Rubic's Cube" with a piece missing and the motto " You Are Not Replaceble".
I think that this is an absolute truth those who suffer with depression need to realize.
Everyone is SOMEONE to others. A Friend, Mentor, Coworker, Brother, Sister, Mother Father, Son, Daughter, Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Spouse. If you are gone there is no one who will ever replace YOU.
It is important to let everyone you have in your life know what role they feel and how important it is to keep filling that role.
It's also important to remember the role you play. You are not replaceable. Niether am I.